Incomplete Farewell

Aristotle described deep friendship saying, “What is a friend? A single soul in two bodies”.

• Friendship is deep and powerful and amazing, but it is hard to really explain why.   If you have a close friend you just know what I mean.  No surprise, when a friend dies, like when a family member dies, we don’t “get over it”.  We learn to live with it.  It may get different, it may get easier, but it is always with us.

• You know that your friend is family, that you love them as deeply. Somehow talking about your bestie often doesn’t carry that same weight, despite the fact that your relationship with that friend may have been as, if not more, important.  This can feel especially crappy when a friend dies and those around you don’t give you the same support and validation that they would have had it been a family member.

And you think you’ll never have another friend like them..!! L

And you know what, this is true.  You will never have another friend exactly like the person you lost.  Your friendship was as unique as the two of you. We worry that if we start to feel ‘better’ it means we are forgetting that person or moving on.  With friendships, there can be a feeling that, if I let new friends in, I am forgetting or replacing the friend I lost.

Two year ago, I lost someone. A friend .. A best Friend .. A guardian .. A bond very close to my heart.

 What hurt me the most is, I did not get that last chance to say Good bye ... to bid adieu .. and to say how much I valued our friendship ..

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Writing helps me pour out my feelings into words ..

So .. This is for you Nirmal ..

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As I walked in the park, 

You roamed through my mind,

You, You crazy Best-Friend of mine...!!

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I saw your face, 

As white as snow,

You were only young,

Too early to go..!!

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As I walked in the park, 

I remembered it all,

how without any warning or sign,

You eloped into the divine.

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I know your decision was painful to make, 

The thoughts in your head,

must have been painful to take.!!

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As I walked in the park,

I thought about you a lot,

I pray you're at peace,

and all your pain is at ease..
Don't worry about my pain..
when the time comes,

I'll see you again.!!

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And guys...don't wait for the right time to come, go, call your best friends, friends, sisters, cousins, parents .. those closer to your heart.. Call them .. Tell them how much they mean to you and that you'll always be there for them.. GO!!!

#restinpeacemyfriend😢💙